Dear Diary – 2020

I keep sitting down to write out posts, and I have, let’s see… at last count, 21 drafts. Other bloggers, do you also have a fuck-ton of unfinished drafts, or are you normal? I’m frustrated with myself because I really wanted to commit to this, and there are a million and one things I could write about right now. But the fact is, they’re all … Continue reading Dear Diary – 2020

Can’t We Just Be Allowed to be Sad?

“Don’t you wish you were happier? More productive? More at peace? More energetic?” “For just $27.99 you can learn all the secrets I’ve spent years developing…” I see this shite all the time lately. Ads aimed at making people happy and productive. “Make your bed when you get up. Brush your teeth. Wash your face. Eat breakfast. Go for a run. Make an entry in … Continue reading Can’t We Just Be Allowed to be Sad?

How to Save Money – Broke Edition

Everyone has seen the articles (or TV shows) full of “helpful tips” on how to save money. There are some out there that list helpful things, for sure, but then there are the ones that try to be “edgy” and “hard hitting.” The ones I’ve seen often say things like: Stop buying expensive cups of coffee every day Stop eating out every day Don’t get … Continue reading How to Save Money – Broke Edition

Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

Lewis Carroll brought us the phrase “down the rabbit hole,” introducing the term in 1865 in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. In the story, the phrase was literal – she actually, physically fell down a rabbit hole, landing in Wonderland. In this context, falling down the rabbit hole was about stumbling upon a surreal, strange and absurd place. Many believe that this was meant to be … Continue reading Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

With all the outrage, all the hurt, all the fear coming from the black community, with the BLM (Black Lives Matter) movement comes the issue of white privilege. And with the issue of white privilege, comes the masses of white folks who feel attacked or blamed because they misunderstand the fundamental jist of the phrase. Full disclosure: I was seriously irate about the term “white … Continue reading How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

Feel What You Feel

I’m losing track of the times in the past few years that I’ve expressed how I feel about a person or situation and have been told some variation of “you shouldn’t feel that way.” “What an awful thing to say.” “You should let that go.” Etcetera, etcetera. Tying into my post about authenticity – this is one of those unwritten social rules it seems, and … Continue reading Feel What You Feel

Don’t Be A Tourist

tour·ist/ˈto͝orəst/ noun1. a person who is traveling or visiting a place for pleasure.“the pyramids have drawn tourists to Egypt” Storytime! When my oldest son was perhaps a tad younger than 3 years old, something happened. A switch flipped. My sweet, happy, and charming boy turned into a raging nightmare. Terrible twos, right? Or is it threes? That was what I thought until it got worse. And … Continue reading Don’t Be A Tourist

The Song is Ended, but the Melody Lingers on…

My uncle, who I’ll simply call “H”, had quite a life. From a difficult upbringing to drugs and alcohol, he lived life recklessly quite often. He was a mass of contradictions, full of absurd humour, strange beliefs and opinions, genuinely intelligent observations, sometimes a dash of bitterness. He could be the most thoughtless person at times, and other times he was the sweetest and most … Continue reading The Song is Ended, but the Melody Lingers on…

Be Nice

Aside from the most basic skills, one of the first things I think children are taught is “be nice.” It starts out meaning the same thing whether you’re a girl or a boy. “Be nice” means, “don’t hit.” It means “don’t bite.” Or “don’t steal that toy.” “Please don’t scream.” In the beginning, it simply means treating other people decently, because of course children don’t … Continue reading Be Nice