Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

Lewis Carroll brought us the phrase “down the rabbit hole,” introducing the term in 1865 in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. In the story, the phrase was literal – she actually, physically fell down a rabbit hole, landing in Wonderland. In this context, falling down the rabbit hole was about stumbling upon a surreal, strange and absurd place. Many believe that this was meant to be … Continue reading Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

With all the outrage, all the hurt, all the fear coming from the black community, with the BLM (Black Lives Matter) movement comes the issue of white privilege. And with the issue of white privilege, comes the masses of white folks who feel attacked or blamed because they misunderstand the fundamental jist of the phrase. Full disclosure: I was seriously irate about the term “white … Continue reading How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

Feel What You Feel

I’m losing track of the times in the past few years that I’ve expressed how I feel about a person or situation and have been told some variation of “you shouldn’t feel that way.” “What an awful thing to say.” “You should let that go.” Etcetera, etcetera. Tying into my post about authenticity – this is one of those unwritten social rules it seems, and … Continue reading Feel What You Feel

Don’t Be A Tourist

tour·ist/ˈto͝orəst/ noun1. a person who is traveling or visiting a place for pleasure.“the pyramids have drawn tourists to Egypt” Storytime! When my oldest son was perhaps a tad younger than 3 years old, something happened. A switch flipped. My sweet, happy, and charming boy turned into a raging nightmare. Terrible twos, right? Or is it threes? That was what I thought until it got worse. And … Continue reading Don’t Be A Tourist

Annnnnd… We’re Back!

The royal we. You know. There’s only me here, me and my delusions of grandieur. My last post was March 17th. It is now juuuust about May 31st, and that means I didn’t bother with this blog which I pay good money for, for at least… *counts on fingers* two months and some more time. Hi, party people! Reading… people! Whoever you are. Greetings of … Continue reading Annnnnd… We’re Back!

The Song is Ended, but the Melody Lingers on…

My uncle, who I’ll simply call “H”, had quite a life. From a difficult upbringing to drugs and alcohol, he lived life recklessly quite often. He was a mass of contradictions, full of absurd humour, strange beliefs and opinions, genuinely intelligent observations, sometimes a dash of bitterness. He could be the most thoughtless person at times, and other times he was the sweetest and most … Continue reading The Song is Ended, but the Melody Lingers on…

Stop asking me ‘what about men?’ 

Everyone who follows my blog knows that my best work is written in rage, or port. But Christmas has gone now so no more port.? Well, at least I still have rage. So back to that.? Recently I have been getting increasingly frustrated with ‘whataboutery’ every single time I write or speak about women or girls.? For those of you who don’t know what that… Continue reading Stop asking me ‘what about men?’ 

Be Nice

Aside from the most basic skills, one of the first things I think children are taught is “be nice.” It starts out meaning the same thing whether you’re a girl or a boy. “Be nice” means, “don’t hit.” It means “don’t bite.” Or “don’t steal that toy.” “Please don’t scream.” In the beginning, it simply means treating other people decently, because of course children don’t … Continue reading Be Nice

Functionality and Chronic Illness

This (thankfully, nearly ending) winter has been one of the hardest I’ve ever had. I talked about it some here, but, new developments. Aside from the actual pain, fatigue, foggy brain et. al. that comes with my particular brand of chronic illness (and exacerbating issues), the most difficult and frustrating thing for me has been a steadily decrease of my own functionality. Growing up in … Continue reading Functionality and Chronic Illness