Canada’s Birthday 2021

Today is meant to be the celebration of 153 years since Canada became a new federation with its own constitution by signing the Constitution Act – formerly known as the British North America Act. And yet, I’m not celebrating. Not this year, out of respect for a community mourning. As non-indigenous folk, we have to come to terms with a dark, not-so-distant past that indigenous … Continue reading Canada’s Birthday 2021

Deadweight

Have you ever reached a point in life where you want to just cut out human deadweight? I’m a Facebook person. I have been since 2007. Although I do have Twitter and Instagram accounts, I don’t use them nearly as much. I always liked the more personal connection I had with friends vs. “followers.” For a long time I kept everyone in my friends list … Continue reading Deadweight

215 out of 4,100

I’ll keep this brief. The bodies of 215 children, some as young as 3 years old, were recently discovered in unmarked graves at a former B.C. residential school site. This most recent discovery is part of a much larger and inexcusable pattern of deaths, by disease or “accidents” in Canadian Residential Schools. The First Nations Child and Family Caring Society reports that they have identified … Continue reading 215 out of 4,100

Self-Help for Anxious People – Your Guide to Less Giving a Shit

No, you don’t need a million books. Trust me on this. A good many self-help books largely just help you dump your money into the author’s pocket. After years (so many years) of therapy, I feel at least a little bit qualified to condense what I’ve learned into something that may help people. At least, these are the things I suggest when friends come to … Continue reading Self-Help for Anxious People – Your Guide to Less Giving a Shit

Dear Diary – 2020

I keep sitting down to write out posts, and I have, let’s see… at last count, 21 drafts. Other bloggers, do you also have a fuck-ton of unfinished drafts, or are you normal? I’m frustrated with myself because I really wanted to commit to this, and there are a million and one things I could write about right now. But the fact is, they’re all … Continue reading Dear Diary – 2020

Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

Lewis Carroll brought us the phrase “down the rabbit hole,” introducing the term in 1865 in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. In the story, the phrase was literal – she actually, physically fell down a rabbit hole, landing in Wonderland. In this context, falling down the rabbit hole was about stumbling upon a surreal, strange and absurd place. Many believe that this was meant to be … Continue reading Down, Down, Down The Rabbit Hole

How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

With all the outrage, all the hurt, all the fear coming from the black community, with the BLM (Black Lives Matter) movement comes the issue of white privilege. And with the issue of white privilege, comes the masses of white folks who feel attacked or blamed because they misunderstand the fundamental jist of the phrase. Full disclosure: I was seriously irate about the term “white … Continue reading How Can I Have White Privilege When I’m Disadvantaged? Here’s How:

Feel What You Feel

I’m losing track of the times in the past few years that I’ve expressed how I feel about a person or situation and have been told some variation of “you shouldn’t feel that way.” “What an awful thing to say.” “You should let that go.” Etcetera, etcetera. Tying into my post about authenticity – this is one of those unwritten social rules it seems, and … Continue reading Feel What You Feel

Don’t Be A Tourist

tour·ist/ˈto͝orəst/ noun1. a person who is traveling or visiting a place for pleasure.“the pyramids have drawn tourists to Egypt” Storytime! When my oldest son was perhaps a tad younger than 3 years old, something happened. A switch flipped. My sweet, happy, and charming boy turned into a raging nightmare. Terrible twos, right? Or is it threes? That was what I thought until it got worse. And … Continue reading Don’t Be A Tourist